Don't Hate Me Because I'm Beautiful-A Rant

I'm 30 years old about to be 31 on May 25. It took me a long time to realize that I am beautiful. Not because of my physical attributes (Even though I ain't bad to look at, if I do say so myself), But because I'm a good person, and I'm good to people. You are going to have Haters, whether you are doing good or bad, somebody always has something negative to say. You are going to have people that hate you for your youth, your outgoing personality, your job,your car, your house, your life and even if you are actually an attractive person. Just tell them like this pastor said  "F U"! It's not the "F U" that most people think. He meant "I FORGIVE YOU". So forgive these people and move on, they are the ones that have the problems or the self esteem issues not you. However if you do, here are some ways to build your self esteem: You need to like yourself first before anyone else can like you.

•  ALWAYS SMILE AND STAND UP STRAIGHT WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH (Don't ever let the Haters see you down, they thrive on your unhappiness)
• Focus on your achievements and even if you failed try to work out what you did right and how you could succeed next time.
•  Remember that these people do not pay your bills, so who cares what the think? 
•  I advise you not to be too competitive or compare yourself with others. Be yourself and accept that life is not a race against others but your self confidence depends on you and your personal wants and needs.
• STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN!!
• Dress sharp ( Do people even say "sharp" anymore, anyway you know what I mean).
• Do your hair,get a haircut, a shave, slap on a wig, or get some weave.
• Now, this is a hard one...Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
• Speak up, you are not a rug!
• Last but not least and I'm talking to myself also, Get your Butt to a Gym!

Top 5 Things you Should Not be doing when you are in a Relationship

Number 1, you should not be telling others that you are single when you know good and well you have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

As a matter of fact let me give you some definitions (Sorry for those who hate to read)

Single-An individual person or thing rather than part of a pair or a group. (Now I also know that single means Not Married, but give me a break people you know what single I'm talking about!)

Boyfriend- a frequent or regular male companion in a romantic or sexual relationship.

Girlfriend-a female friend with whom a man or woman is romantically or sexually involved; sweetheart.

Relationship-The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.

Number 2, Should not be a member of a dating site such as "Tagged,BootyCall,BlackPeopleMeet,or Zoosk to name a few.( You have someone, you should not be looking for another unless you are finished with the first. Unless you want to end up with busted windows)

Number 3, No other male or female should be texting, emailing,sending a letter or calling he or she on the phone, unless it's about business,a family member, or it's a friend(not an EX, unless you have children, and even then say what you have to say and end the conversation)

Number 4, You should not be having a meal,a movie, or going out in anyway with anybody that is not your girlfriend or boyfriend, friend, co-worker, business partner, or family member.

Number 5, Last but not least, staying out late and not communicating either by text or phone call with your boyfriend or girlfriend. ( Communication is the key. You could save yourself an argument if you would just call or text)

What about your Friends?

I've met quite a few people in my life that I can truly call "friend", most people fall into that "associate" category. Here are the differences between "Friends"and "Associates". Check it out and you decide who you are dealing with...

Qualities to look for in :FRIENDS

1. Reliability-You can call them (almost) anytime to talk, get a ride or just hang out.
2. Generosity-Friends that are not stingy with their money or time.
3. Care and Interest-It's no all about them, they care about your Bday,show concern during tough times
4. Humility-Able to say "I'm sorry", or "I forgive you".
5. Sense of Humor-Able to take a joke.
6. Similar Morals-Make sure you both agree not to cross the line
7. Similar Interest-Even though opposites attract, it would be nice to have something in common.
8. Flexibility-an open mind
9. Respect-Does not put you down, but puts you in check...respectfully.
10. and of course have FUN!!-builds friendships that last a lifetime.

ASSOCIATES

1. Feels no responsibility for you and is unconcerned about you.
2. An associate is not trying to help you out. In fact, they may hide opportunities from you, because they don't want you to be more successful than them. A friend is your cheerleader.
3.  If you are shy about sharing the personal details of your life with them, they are probably more associate than friend.
4. Those who aren’t true friends may take your kindness for weakness. If you give of your time and treasures and never get anything in return, you are probably dealing with an associate and not a real friend.

Never depend on Someone Else for Your Happiness!

Hey guys!, that includes you too men. I'm writing this blog for everyone to see, and feel free to comment.It's a blog after all. Since this is my first posting I wanted to write about something that I have been guilty of, such as feeling like I have to have a boyfriend to feel complete. I know he bible says "no man should be alone", or something like that. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I had to realize that it's okay to be single. It's actually less stressful. You never have to worry about if your bf/gf is being faithful,nor do you have to argue about who left the toilet seat up, or who drank all the kool-aid and put the pitcher back...empty of course. That's arguments you have with your children, for God's sake.

Top 5 benefits to being single for men and women are:

• You only have to worry about yourself (and your kids, if you have any)
• Sleep through the night with no snoring or blanket hogging, plus you have the whole bed to yourself!
• Coming and Going as you Damn well please (Some of you all do this even if you are not single)
• Dating as much or as little as your heart or body desires ;)
• All the food in the refrigerator is yours!, including the kool-aid...

Now, it wouldn't be fair if I didn't tell you the Top 5 benefits to be not single for men and women are:

• Never have to go out to get some lovin'
• A travel companion
• In some cases the man or woman becomes a maid or cook for their bf/gf
• A Confidant
• Financially helps one another in some cases

But please remember you were okay before you met this person, and if they leave, you will still be okay. Now I can go on and on, but I know people don't lik t read these days. So, go ahead and comment. Say what yo like, there will be no judgement here.